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5. What do you think are the biggest public misconceptions about BL/Yaoi?

Addis’ Answer: Yaoi or BL, in general, are stories typically written by women for women. So one of the biggest misconceptions of BL is that most people who have never heard of BL or yaoi believe that every character in the series is automatically homosexual. However, the characters typically do not identify as homosexual, and only in recent years have there been characters who directly “come out” as being gay. The characters in BL are more neutrally in love with a particular character as opposed to being of a certain sexual orientation.  

Interestingly enough, maybe it’s because BL is mainly written by women, most BL avoids misogyny, female stereotypes, and sometimes abusive treatment of female characters in sexual scenes. (This doesn’t include the males that are now in the female places.) It may also be why m-preg or omegaverse series came to be, to add more elements to the series to give the female readers more points to connect to the main characters with.

I also think a big misconception is the fact that there is a difference between Shounen-ai and yaoi. While shonen-ai, directly translated into Boy’s Love (BL), is typically a story that has no sex scenes and sometimes even no kissing, where yaoi has detailed images or descriptions of the sex scenes. Yaoi is an acronym that stands for: yama nashi, ochi nashi, imi nashi (no climax, no point, and no meaning), basically the manga or novels that have no plot and are only there for the sexy times as blatant gay hentai.

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January 27, 2022 5:11 am

I think misogyny. The portrayal of women as a negative character most of the time is really ridiculous.
Most women/men have hatred/enmity to their crush’s partner, tries to harm them which doesn’t limit to 1 time. After the repetition it really becomes annoying.
I have seen many novels or manga where the guy taking female position is comparable to a woman….they are described to weak as a women, crying like a women. Okay hello, we woman dont always cry. I dont understand that thought process

January 27, 2022 6:55 am

That it wouldn’t be enjoyed by guys (straight or otherwise) too, or by women not ‘into guys on guys’.
Within BL novels there are as many tropes as in straight charactered novels.
So, there’s action, romance, fantasy/sci-fi, angst etc, just the same… and porn. Something for everyone, basically.

January 27, 2022 11:57 am

In general, the uke have the same character as women, and i hate it. They are all effeminate, without personality…

And in a lot of yaoi, the seme rape the uke, as if it were normal, and the uke doesn’t say anything and fall in love with the seme….Hum sorry, but no, it’s not normal…

And also they wet like women…Strange no…You can’t wet from the ass…Well it’s not really realistic.

January 27, 2022 10:19 pm

There’s the whole fetish question.
Is straight-ish women getting turned on by gay sex a fetish? Putting it that way…possibly. We’ve got to acknowledge that.
Many gay dudes say “yes, definitely” and are extremely uncomfortable with BL/BL fans because of that. There’s members of the LGBT that really despise the genre, despite never having read a BL story before, just on that alone.
But fact is, most BL fans aren’t reading it for the sex, or at least not entirely. It’s the romance. Still…

January 28, 2022 10:42 am

Hello Addis, I think your statement answers all the questions I would have about BL novels, as Idont know much about it I find interesting the way the omegaverse novels are that dont discriminate gender, thank you Addis for your Job of translating the novela❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

January 28, 2022 10:52 pm

Hmm I think when they label shounei ai like boy X boy doing sex n all.. eventhough shounen ai is mild one without sex.. yaoi too they think it was extreme like rape 😂 I was laughing when I heard that.. even if yaoi have genre like SM but still rape doesn’t count in any genre I think.. its individual character n moral ethics to me..

January 29, 2022 5:41 pm

Esta va en español. Creo que muchos fans toxicos del BL ha dañado la imagen de los fans en general. Se enojan si la novela (o lo que sea) no van de acuerdo a sus deseos, son groseros con los escritores o traductores. Muchas personas piensan que solo es sexo, y si es sexo pero como todo hay historias muy buenas, con excelentes mensaje, excelentes personajes.

January 30, 2022 3:59 am

That it’s just for sex, trying different flavours before settling down, that it’s only for women and gay people, that those reading and writing have some weird fetishes, are perverts or gay themselves, that the relationships described are fruitless. I’ve also heard a statement that those writing BL’s seek attention and money, and want to shock with taboo content.

January 31, 2022 3:49 am

In my opinion, the biggest misconception is when people thinks that, just because there is a story between 2 men, it is Yaoi. Not At All. For example, “Killing Stalking”. Dont you feel it is more a Seinen, or thriller ?Just because there is something between 2 men is it Yaoi ? That’s the same with “Smut” : who on earth wants a big plot with big background stories and very profound characters when reading Smut Novels ? but there is ! so the categories are very a big misleading, i feel.

January 31, 2022 4:26 am

That BL and its counterparts are porn. Well that’s not right, and not false either. It is porn, but it has plot okay? and some of us read for the thick angst.

February 25, 2022 6:32 pm

Yaoi/bl is just a genre full of sex between boys that was made for straight girls, all of bl/yaoi is sexual, the fandom is just a bunch of crazy girls and toxic.

February 26, 2022 5:47 am

when bottom’s personality in the story becomes like the female character in another novel or series.. and when females in the story are always the antagonist..

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March 9, 2022 11:35 am

I am writing from my real life experiences. Most of gays in my country try to show off theirs sexual orientation which led me to felf very uncomfortable to look at them. When I moved to the western county I later found out to love someone is an inevitable feeling and should get respected but on contrary the way they presented their preference to society that was caused the rejection. PS my personal believe.

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